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having been fractured or damaged and no longer in one piece or in working order.


(of a person) having given up all hope; despairing.


I’m broken, I push men away, I shut them out. I have a hard time letting people in. When they try to be in my life, I show them they shouldn’t.

Ray wants to be in my life, to give me his friendship, I fight with him, I tell him I’m not worth the time. I am mean, I hurt his feelings. I push him away. He knows I need a friend that will love me for me, he loves my flaws and sees my tears. He still wants to be a part of my life.

I close my heart to anyone who wants to get in. I don’t like letting people in, I don’t like depending on people. When I lean on people I lean hard, they don’t like it. So, then I push them away.

My girls are different, they understand me because they have the same struggles, they know when I don’t text them back I need some time to myself and they text me saying I am here when you need me.

Men are different

If I don’t text them right back they throw me away

I can’t get a day or two to think?


They like screw you.

So I push them away.

Men don’t want me because I am messed up in the head

Having no male example in my life will do that.

I have had to learn from my husbands, and well, most of us know how that turned out…

I had a meeting with this man for my research piece on “Addictions for a Black Man”. He shared with me that women close themselves off to see how hard that man will work to break down that wall.


How is that a bad thing?

He said if I put that same wall we put up would I work to break it down?


That hit a nerve

I said it’s not our job to do that.

He said why not, you don’t think we hurt? Are we not hurting? We don’t want to get our heart broken too?

I didn’t see it like that.

Women build walls, then expect the man who wants her to tear them down.

I am that woman.

I can’t help it, I’ve been hurt so the only way to protect myself is block them out.

It’s not their job to tear the wall down, it’s mine

I know this

But I still expect them to.

Is that wrong of me?

I don’t want to hurt Ray, he is trying, I don’t want to be mean, I told him I am trying, don’t push my friendship away, but, men always leave me.

See, broken.


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