Friendship: Part One
“Friendships are relationships that involve two very critical dimensions – interdependence and voluntary participation,” explains Northern Illinois University psychologist and friendship expert Dr. Suzanne Degges-White
Studies have shown that having friends can actually prolong your life. KLAUS VEDFELT
Growing up friendship has been always easy for me, I would just start talking to a person
Doesn’t matter if we had a friendship.
I am in my 30’s now, and I don’t know a thing about friendship.
It’s so much easier in high school.
So many factors that play apart into have a friend:
If you have a family
When I had my first divorce I had friends drop like flies, they are all still married, they told me they couldn’t stay friends with someone who isn’t married anymore.
When I got remarried my single friends didn’t understand, and the old married friends still didn’t want anything to do with me.
I couldn’t win.
I needed friends that would love me for when I was single or married.
I have been told I am too playful, too serious, too religious, not religious enough, too needy, too fat, not fat enough, not black enough, and my personal favorite, I think I’m better than other people.
Right in the crotch
I am a people pleaser, I can adapt to personalities and people vibes very easily.
I can be a bit outgoing but I know when to listen and be still.
I always valued how well of a friend I am, I remember bdays, anniversaries, kids bdays, make sure I always answer text less than 5 mins, answer calls, make time for hanging out.
Having a listening ear
Praying with you or for you
I have always been proud of my ability to be a great friend
Sadly, I have not had that in return.
I want a love in my friendship where they need me as much as I need them.
You are a part of my family as much as I am a part of theirs.
Our kids are friends
Our men are friends
Our neighbors know you
We have keys to our places
Our disagreements are healthy conversations
We make goals in our friendships
If one of us come up we all come up
I always wanted a friendship when they couldn’t wait to talk to me next time.
I love people and I think it’s very closed minded if you only have one have gender of race for a friendships
I have always thought it was weird to have all girl friends, they might be able to help with every issue in life, but it’s something about keeping a man in your life.
Having all men as your friends doesn’t have all the perks as well. There are tons I would need the ladies for.
Both genders have uses for friendships.
Do you have all women friends or men?
I have a second part to this, sit tight.