“People pleasers try to nourish other people without adequately nourishing themselves. We all know the line they say on airplanes, it’s become cliche: before helping anyone else put on their oxygen mask, put on your own. But this is as true in our emotional lives as it is in airplane safety. When we try to help others without actually being supportive of ourselves, we all end up running out of oxygen”.

How Does People Pleasing Negatively Affect Your Mental Health?


I try to please everyone
I try hard to make people happy
I don’t like when people are disappointed in me

People have no problem being mad at me
Or disappointing me
Or letting me down

I feel like it’s always my fault
I blame myself
I beat myself up about it
I will own up to my faults
I will apologize
I make amends

Who makes me happy?
Who tries to please me?
Who tries to not make me upset?

I work hard at being a good friend

Who is going to do that for me?

If I am upset I keep it to myself
If I need to cry I do it alone
If I am frustrated then I hide it
If you hurt me I say sorry
If you are mean, I tell you it’s my fault

My roommates said some hurtful things to me, I felt like they ganged up on me
It was a situation that was out of my control
They said I was selfish
I have never been called those names in my adult years
I ended up telling them I am sorry
That I will do better
I am fixing the problem I didn’t create

I cried to them
I cried alone
I didn’t want them mad at me, I didn’t want to let them down
I try to be whatever people need me to be, but people don’t do the same for me.
I don’t ask much from people, I don’t ask my roommates for anything
They don’t ask me if I’m okay today or if I need anything
I stay to myself
In my own little world
Being a mother
At work
In my room
In my bed
Always writing

I don’t like letting people down
I always try to be the person they need me to be
Even if it makes me uncomfortable
I try to be the person who gave you a smile
A laugh
A shoulder
Listening ear

It’s a good quality to have as a person right?
I bend myself for people but do people do the same?

I’m always going to be a pleaser
It’s one of my greatest qualities
But when is enough, enough?



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